5, 3, 1


This one was so good for us early on. You know, the time when you’re still very concerned that both people are optimally pleased when making small decisions. And let’s be honest, we still resort to this at times!

5,3,1 works like this… Have a decision to make? Which movie to watch? Which restaurant to go to? Which road trip to take? Which Cheesecake Factory cheesecake to split?

One person chooses five options. The other person narrows it down to three from those five. And the original person chooses the one out of the three you will do, pick, eat, etc. 

It truly takes some of the pressure off of two indecisive people making a decision. The back and forth allows one person to choose a wide variety and the other to cut any options they definitely don’t want! Then you get a happy final decision.

You probably won’t need to use 5,3,1 for long, but early on, it’s great. Or if you’re just really, really indecisive. Have fun!


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  • Jennifer

    I love this idea!! I’m sooo indecisive when it comes to restaurants and things to do and it drives hubby nuts. I think this might be a good solution to our issue (and we’ve been married 13 years, hah!). Love your blog!

    • natalie

      I’m glad I could share it with you! it’s perfect for choosing a restaurant.

  • Really excited about your blog!! Found it through adoption search stuff… I’m from an adoptive, mixed-race family, and one of my most precious dreams is to adopt before I have biological kids. I never see young couples do this, and I can’t tell you how your story has filled me with joy! Hang in there – I completely relate about how grueling the paper-pregnant stage can be. The Lord is faithful!

    Isaiah 30:18-21, “Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!…How gracious he will be when you cry for help! As soon as he hears, he will answer you. Although the Lord gives you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, your teachers will be hidden no more; with your own eyes you will see them. Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.””

    • natalie

      thanks for your encouragement, Marli! love your blog, too. happy we connected!

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