This one was so good for us early on. You know, the time when you’re still very concerned that both people are optimally pleased when making small decisions. And let’s be honest, we still resort to this at times!
5,3,1 works like this… Have a decision to make? Which movie to watch? Which restaurant to go to? Which road trip to take? Which Cheesecake Factory cheesecake to split?
One person chooses five options. The other person narrows it down to three from those five. And the original person chooses the one out of the three you will do, pick, eat, etc.
It truly takes some of the pressure off of two indecisive people making a decision. The back and forth allows one person to choose a wide variety and the other to cut any options they definitely don’t want! Then you get a happy final decision.
You probably won’t need to use 5,3,1 for long, but early on, it’s great. Or if you’re just really, really indecisive. Have fun!